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Advice for Gemma and Riley
May 8, 2011, 11:58 am
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In reflecting upon motherhood this week, I’ve come up with some advice for Gemma and Riley.

1. Intelligence will serve you further than beauty.
2. Always show sincere gratitude, no matter how small or large the gesture.
3. Don’t be a “know-it-all”. It’s a very annoying personality trait.
4. Try not to incorporate “um” or “like” into your vocabulary. The English language is vast; use it.
5. Laugh often and loudly;
HOWEVER…
6. Crying during sappy, over-acted chick-flicks is not only allowed but strongly encouraged.
7. Here is one critical piece of fashion advice: walking in uncomfortable shoes can ruin an entire outfit.
8. Don’t get addicted to Starbucks. It’s an expensive habit.
9. Floss your teeth at least once a day.
10. Know that Dad and I are, by far and away, your biggest advocates and supporters. We will always, always love you.
I wish each and every one of you a wonderful Mother’s Day.
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Mother’s Day Post: Valeria from A Little Pea Came Along
May 7, 2011, 12:07 pm
Filed under: Guest Blogger, Inspiration

Our next Mama blogger from our Mother’s Day Series is Valeria from A Little Pea Came Along. Read on to hear her very sweet advice for her two little girls.

Mother’s Day as a day to give my mom a bouquet of beautiful flowers and a card to remind her how remarkable she is makes perfect sense. Now that I am included in this holiday it is almost silly. Shouldn’t I celebrate my daughters for all they have given to me? I get to receive a gift and a sweet note from the very person who has given me the greatest gift of all? It almost seems like I am cheating.

With motherhood I unwrapped a whole new facet of my heart and soul, each layer is bright and new and I discover this daily. Every day that I get to spend with Olivia Simone contains an adventure, a challenge, some questions, and a whole lot of loving. With her, happiness is simple and endlessly sweet, being her mama is sugar and I’m eating it up. “Every breath that is in your lungs is a tiny little gift to me”.

In pregnancy I wondered how I could possibly become perfect for her. The perfect woman that she could look up to and learn from, I had to be flawless because that is what she deserves. I had to have all the answers in life, all the lessons learned. Frantic, I realized the impossibility of this task and my limitations in achieving it. Little did I know that the best lessons I could pass on were the very ones my own mother repeated to me year after year, as I was drowning in the throes of teen angst and being painfully clueless. Luckily, the words seeped into my skin and I actually began to live them.

I want my daughters to never forget:

You have to be more than just a pretty face. Your mind, your courage, and your kindness to others will make you unforgettable. Appreciate your beauty but do not be foolish enough to think that this is something that is only visible on the surface. Who you are will make people fall in love with you. The way you speak, the things you say, what you believe in. That will make you eternal, that will define you. Fill your brain with knowledge.

Your body is your temple. Respect your body, it’s what will carry you through life. It is where you will keep your experiences and the wisdom you will collect. Your legs will help you travel the world, your being will bear your children. Feed it right, exercise, embrace your flaws. Do not flaunt it in a way that only degrades you. Share your self only with someone who is as special as you are. You are so beautiful.

Do not poison your tongue with evil words. Those who gossip with you will gossip about you. Stay away from toxic people and bad situations. If you know yourself and what you stand for, it will be far easier to stay away from the pressures of people who have strayed. You can learn a lot from these experiences, but also be wise. Be good to people.

Protect your sister. Protect. Your. Sister. No one in this entire world is more yours than her, and remember that you belong to each other. Even if at times you do not like her, you must always love her unconditionally. The truth is that you were each created from the same cluster of atoms perfectly rearranged, you are one split into two. You grew in my belly and were born out of the same love. When we are gone, you will find your roots in each other. Hold on to her with both hands.

There is so much to life. Yearn for it, question it, find it. Seek your purpose, get to the core. Discover what makes our world extraordinary, care for the Earth, and listen to music daily. Find out why you are here and live it. Don’t waste the day. And when in doubt, dress up.


Song lyric quoted: The White Stripes “Dead Leaves and the Dirty Ground”



Mother’s Day Guest Post: Lauren From Before I Was A Mom
May 6, 2011, 9:23 pm
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Our next Guest Blogger in our Mother’s Day series is Lauren from Before I Was a Mom. Read on to hear her feelings about mothering her daughter Sierra and the lessons she hopes to teach her…

At least once a week I am awestruck by the fact that I am a mom. I’ll look down at my daughter, Sierra, and wonder how it’s possible I have been entrusted with the incredible responsibility of growing and now raising this amazing child. Sometime between nervously watching those two pink lines appear on the pregnancy test and clutching my gooey not-even-pink-yet baby to my chest, I began my role as her mama. I can’t pinpoint the exact moment I became a mama and even now the experience of being a mama is constantly changing. My role as Sierra’s mama evolves as my daughter grows.

Sierra was born sure of what she wanted and demanding about how and when she wanted it. While this frustrates me at times, I hope she continues to have a clear understanding of what she wants in life and I hope she always demands what she deserves. I want her to stay true to herself, because she shouldn’t have to change for anyone. I never want her to hide how intelligent she is, how vulnerable she may be, or how deeply she cares about something or someone.

Sierra has taught me so much in the last 20 months. She has taught me difficult lessons, like how little sleep a person can function on, how much liquid a teeny baby can puke up, and how complicated a three item trip to the grocery store can be now. She has also taught me about beauty and patience by stopping to examine every single flower in a row of forty. She has taught me about the importance of human interaction and kindness by constantly waving and chatting with strangers in the coffee shop, on the bus, and at the store. Mostly Sierra has taught me about love, specifically the incredible ability of a mother to love her daughter more every day, even when her love felt overwhelmingly intense from the beginning.

I hope in return I can teach her many things in the years to come, but there is one important and complicated lesson I have been turning over in my mind lately. I want Sierra to know that she is beautiful, literally stunning, exactly the way she is, but I also want her to know that being beautiful isn’t that important. I want her to feel confident and good about her body, but I also want her to realize that her intelligence, her kindness and compassion, and her fiercely feisty spirit matter more than her mile long lashes, her deep brown eyes, or her rosebud lips. I want her to be the kind of girl who knows she is pretty but doesn’t think too much about it because she’s so busy pursuing personal interests, working on her academic subjects, and forming friendships with people who are similarly grounded.

Mostly I hope Sierra will feel more happiness than sadness, more satisfaction than disappointment, and more love than anger or jealousy.



Mother’s Day Guest Post: Adriana of Just BY Living
May 5, 2011, 3:19 pm
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Over the next few days we will be sharing with you some posts from guest bloggers. We chose women we admire and respect to share with you their thoughts on motherhood. Each has compiled a little list of advice for their child (or children). We hope you enjoy it and would love to know….what do you hope to pass on to your kids?

Our first is from Adriana of Just By Living

I love being a mother. It has defined me. I don’t believe that something “changed” in me when I had my son. More so, I feel like something was awoken. I was always his mother deep down and it was just waiting to come to surface. Being a mom, HIS mom, did not alter me but bring out the best possible version of myself. I never knew I could be so good, so healing, caring, devoted, or loving. My love knows no limits or boundaries. It evolves and moves forward with him as he evolves and grows.

You know that expression I loved you before I knew you? Well, I loved him before he existed at all. I loved him when he was a dream, a wish, a whisper. Now, he is my reality. That is what I am celebrating on Mother’s Day. A happier life, a lighter life, a life with a little boy who was made from my body, who holds my hand through the day, and wraps his little fingers into my hair during the night.

Here is my advice for my little man…

Never be afraid of failure, some of life’s best lessons are learned from it.

Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it.

Never look back but always remember where you came from.

Put the toilet seat down. Keep books by your bed. Don’t bother with cologne. (Any girl who really loves you will like the way you smell without it)

Travel. and when you do, make like the locals.

Be a gentlemen. There is nothing appealing about a man who doesn’t respect women.

Fall in love. Get married. Have babies. Then, be an active parent. A family is something you will NEVER regret.

To be honest, I don’t know much kiddo, but I do know that being true to yourself, honesty, and self-respect will get you far. Be present in the moment. Life is not found on facebook or in email but right in front of you. Pay attention. The best moments in life slip away quickly. Enjoy them. The smallest things are what make a person truly happy. The smell of the ocean, a gentle summer breeze, the moment before it rains, the curve of a lovers neck, rich hot cocoa, dancing in a crowd full of people you don’t know but feel connected to, road trips, singing at the top of your lungs, BBQs, skinny dipping…these are the things that make you feel alive. No job, or amount of money, or fancy house.

Most importantly, don’t forget to call your mother.

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What I Wore
May 4, 2011, 12:41 pm
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I spend a lot of days working at our shop, Stel’s on Newbury Street. The weather here in Boston has been Spring like but with a bit of a chill so I prefer to dress in layers. Here, I am wearing pieces from our shop (you can find some online). Both the cardigan and tank are made of linen and the leggings have an amazing leather detail on them. They remind me of riding pants but with an edge. The Rachel Comey booties are super comfy and can be worn all year round.

Linen cardigan is by Mizuiro
Natural linen tank top by V::Room
Black legging with leather detail in front by Surface To Air
Caramel booties by Rachel Comey


Around Town: Castle Island.
May 2, 2011, 12:44 pm
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As anyone with a toddler knows, they are filled with what seems like a boundless amount of energy. My twins are 2 and 1/2 years old and we live in a 2 bedroom condo so it is vital that we get Riley and Gemma outdoors as much as possible.

On this particular afternoon, it was a bit chilly but we could feel spring in the air. After winter in Boston even a little bit of sunshine can feel like  a lot.  Dave and I decided to take the girls to one of our favorite Boston spots, Castle Island in South Boston.

The island is home to Fort Independence, a former military structure. During the summer months the fort is open to the public for exploration and adventure. A little fun fact: Castle Island is no longer an island and is actually connected to the mainland by a narrow strip of land. This makes it easy to get to and there is a ton of parking.

A large playground is also situated on the island and if you’re hungry you can grab a bite at the crowd favorite, Sullivan’s (aka Sully’s) – a little greasy spoon joint that serves great fries. There is also a beach area, plenty of room for bike riders, fishing off of the pier, and fantastic airplane watching (Castle Island is located near Logan Airport).

We love taking advantage of Boston and all that it has to offer. It’s nice to know that we don’t have to travel far to make great memories for the girls.

What do you love about your hometown?